WOMEN

Multiple Orgasms

It seems that everyone is talking about multiple orgasms these days. What’s more is that it’s almost assumed that men have the necessary skills and abilities to give a woman an “O” face and make her come again and again. There’s a lot of pressure today for men to perform well and to know how to give a girl what she wants.

For some women multiple orgasms are like candy: they’re addictive, sweet and very satisfying. Orgasms that occur in succession, a steady stream of one after the other, are called the “serial multiple.” The “sequential orgasm” can be like a roller coaster ride interspersed with peaks and lulls with a few minutes between each incredible burst of ecstasy. Orgasms can also be like scaling Mount Everest, a continuous buildup to one incredible peak. All forms of orgasms are attainable, but it is up to the woman’s biology and preference to do so. It is folly to assume that she wants to ride that roller coaster or just scale Everest once in an evening. It is very important to communicate with her about what she wants and desires. Talk to her, listen to her and let her know that you want to pleasure her in the ways she wants. If she does want serial and/or multiple orgasms, keep reading and put yourself in the know.

Create an atmosphere
Her comfort is paramount. In order for her to have a night of peaks, she’ll need to surrender herself to the experience, and she’ll need to be at ease to do so. You can help calm her mind and quell her inhibitions with a little environmental preparation that’s sure to put her on the road to sexual bliss. Clean sheets, downy pillows, tissues by the bed, soft lighting, and subtle scents in the air will aid in creating that easy atmosphere. Take a few minutes to clean your pad, take a shower and shave before she arrives. Also, set your cell phone to silent or turn it off. Finally, if she is a new or newer lover; cut the cord and remove any pictures that remain of your ex.

Sweet-talk her

While her body rests from its latest mind-blowing peak, keep the momentum and energy going with your mouth, mind, lips, and tongue. OK, you could go down on her, but I’m talking about keeping her mind sexually engaged and her body humming with sweet words. You will be able to maintain her physical desire if you describe and tell her how amazing she feels, how incredible she looks as she explodes, and how she’s driving you insane with her beautiful body. Be creative and inventive with your words. Women enjoy feeling a strong and firm grip on their body, so take hold of her as you ready her body for yet another orgasm. She’ll appreciate your pillow talk and physical desire. The sexier and more comfortable she feels, the more she’ll let go. Help her by changing it up and letting her know that she’s the focus

Try different variations

If you know the kind of stimulation she likes, such as clitoral, vaginal or G-spot, it may be wise to keep it that way and just change the position or technique. For example, if your girl achieved her last orgasm quickly and easily through clitoral stimulation, hit the same trigger, but try a different angle or speed. This will effectively aid her in reaching another intense orgasm. Conversely, if she has received a lot of clitoral stimulation she may want a break from her little bud being constantly massaged or manipulated. In this case, a vaginal or G-spot rub may hit the spot. Understand that after orgasm some women may experience an almost uncomfortably or unbearably sensitive clitoris. She may not want continued touching in that area. When and if this occurs, attend to another sweet spot while her bundle of nerves recovers. Here, communication continues to be a key point.

Make it about her

Help her to understand that the night is all about her pleasure. Make her feel that you have the entire night to devote to her satisfaction. Pay no attention to the time it takes. Your patience will have multiple payoffs, but if she feels rushed, she will be less inclined to relax and feel comfortable -- feelings that are not conducive to achieving multiples orgasms. An excellent way to emphasize how much you enjoy making her feel good and to show her that it really is “all about her” is to bring her to orgasm before penetration. She will feel that you really do want her to reach great heights throughout the night, and that you consider your satisfaction secondary -- don’t worry, when’s she has had enough you’ll get yours.
multiple miracles Remember: Orgasms are for her all night. If she wants a lot of little explosions or one huge inferno, it is for her to decide. This isn’t the time to flex your sexual prowess and try to make your woman come over and over if she doesn’t want to -- she might prefer the one peak. Remember that the goal is her satisfaction, not your ego’s inflation by hearing her scream out repeatedly. Just listen to her or ask. Don’t assume that you know what she wants and how she wants it. Take your time and satisfaction will be had.

How to help your female partner have orgasms
These days most women want orgasms. That wasn't always the case. Not much more than a generation ago, many adult females simply didn't have climaxes - and a lot of them weren't bothered about it. Some doctors claimed that, for a huge proportion of women, it was 'normal' to have no experience of orgasm. Indeed, as late as the 1970s there were still some who maintained that the female orgasm didn't exist - and was simply a myth made up by the media.

All that has changed now. These days, medical opinion is that every woman should be able to have orgasms - if she wants to. Furthermore, the view of most sex experts is that the majority of women are capable of multiple orgasms - if they wish to have them. In general, the ability to have multiple orgasms is greater in more mature women. What is a female orgasm? We're writing this explanation in the assumption that you - the reader - are male. But what follows will be of interest to a lot of female readers too.

What happens in a woman's body during a climax is very like what happens in your (male) body when you ejaculate. In other words, there's a feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything 'blows' in a great blast of ecstasy. This 'orgasmic moment' is characterised by surges of contractions in the sex organs, occurring almost every 0.8 seconds.

Men are well aware that these throbs of pleasure are accompanied by the pumping out of spurts of seminal fluid. Obviously this doesn't happen in women.

A few females do produce some fluid at orgasm, but the impression given in so many erotic stories that most women 'ejaculate' is not correct. Only a minority of females do this.

The other big difference between male and female orgasm is this: after the first climax, many women can 'come' again, often within a minute or two.

This ability is extremely rare in males. Relatively few young women can achieve multiple orgasm, because it's an ability that usually has to be learned. But with the help of a skilled lover, most women can eventually achieve the capacity for multiple orgasms - if they so desire.

Bringing women to a climax

For men perhaps the most important thing to realise about female climaxes is that with women, it's not a mechanical thing - as it generally is with men.

You see, most males will ejaculate quite quickly if they have their penises rubbed. This applies even if the circumstances aren't very romantic - or even if they don't particularly like the person who's doing the rubbing! Women are not like this. Female orgasm isn't a push-button response. The conditions have to be right.

Although females vary, many women need the following if they're going to reach a climax easily:

a romantic atmosphere

pleasant, comfortable surroundings

a partner who they really like

a feeling of being wanted and appreciated

a good flow of natural lubrication - so that the delicate female parts don't get sore

a skilled partner who knows how to stimulate the clitoris.

Unless you can provide the above, you are not going to have great success in giving your partner orgasms. Please bear in mind that - contrary to what many men think - sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not very good at stimulating the woman's clitoris. Nearly all females need additional stimulation of the clitoris by fingers or mouth.

In summary, here's what to do if you want to bring your partner to orgasm regularly:

don't be too demanding - it's not an Olympic event.

talk to your partner, and ask her what she wants you to do to her.

always create a romantic atmosphere.

make sure that everything is comfortable and nice for her.

give her lots of kisses and cuddles before you even think about making any approach to her sexual area.

when you do start to stroke, rub or kiss her genitals, don't rush into 'attacking' her clitoris. Take things gently, and see what she wants.

use her own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris. (If she is over 40, it may be a good idea to use some additional lubrication from a chemist or a sex shop). remember that stimulation of the clitoris is the key to female orgasm. sometimes encourage her to 'run' your sex sessions. You can learn a lot by watching how she stimulates herself or by really listening to her when she suggests a sex position, or a particular caress.